Teacher react emotionally, anger, irritation of a teacher

In terms of frequency of expression, anger is normal. It exists everywhere and is in all of us. But most teachers and parents find it difficult to accept anger as normal and inevitable. The real issue for the teacher and parent become the question of how to deal with anger in oneself.

The pressures on us to control or hide our anger are very powerful. Teacher ask, “Will this be held against me as a sign of incompetence or immaturity? ” Other concerns are: “What will the kids tell to their parents? ” and “Will this get back to the principal? ” Teachers, in addition, have real concern for their children: “Will a child become frightened? Will it damage him in some way? ” or, even more upsetting, “Will the child get angry at me, become rebellious, and no longer like me as a teacher? ”

These concerns are so real that most teachers try to hide their anger. The results of this are quite predictable: at best the teacher who is straining to keep in anger is tense, irritable, and impatient: at worst the anger slips out in sarcasm or explodes in a rage of accumulated fury.

On the one hand we can say that the teacher’s anger is normal, because he faces numerous occasions when anger is normal and inevitable. Anger often occurs as the result of accumulated irritation, annoyance and stress. But on the other hand the teacher is expected to behave calmly and coolly at all times. No matter how excited or tired, the teacher should be emotionally stable and consistent. But in fact feelings should be considered honestly and realistically. It is superhuman never to feel anger, shakiness or helplessness. However there is an opinion that anger in a teacher is a sign of weakness. A person who expresses anger often feels childish, immature and guilty. In reality no matter how a teacher tries to hide his emotions children or other outsiders are rarely fooled by his efforts to hide the emotions that are bursting underneath. But at the same time weather the teacher is joyous or angry the feelings must be controlled, hidden, disguised. It is important but the fact is that a teacher who denies his own feelings is wrapped in stress and struggle. Excitement, interest, and enthusiasm are blunted, if not completely obliterated. In the contrary it’s necessary to remember that children’s feelings are more important than teacher’s feelings. A teacher should also bear in mind that the first important criterion of acceptable release is that the child not be blamed, attacked, or insulted. Otherwise teachers who make fun of children or pick out certain weaknesses or deficiencies can leave lasting scars on a child’s attitude toward school.